Read it again if you have to...
I'm gonna start out by saying, I may or may not have "attachment" issues. Note, that I didn't say "commitment" issues, because this is very different. I have no problem committing to things. I can commit to a job, a dog, a cat, a degree, ahhh.... ummm...a... oh, wait, not much else... I can commit to myself!
I am so dangerously (for my ovaries sake) far away from "attaching" myself to anything or anyone who might alter MY plans. I know, lots of people like to call it, having commitment issues, but I could not disagree more.
I won't deny that I am far too selfish to focus on anyone else right now, but I have never felt more ready for my life. It seems like most everyone is getting married and having babies on my Facebook feed, and while I feel excited and happy for them to start the next chapter of their lives, I could not feel more relieved my own plans differ so much.
I have every intention to get married one day and have tens of thousands of babies (wow right?) with that beautiful man, but I am not the least bit concerned with doing it in this very moment.
SO,
This blog is meant to be a bit of encouragement for you ladies rockin' the un-attached lifestyle !
Here are some things you can look forward to in your un-attached style of living:
1) Un-attached does NOT in, any way, mean ALONE.
Enjoy a committed relationship, or two, or three! In fact enjoy any relationship, you're allowed too! Some people say you only date to marry, I say date if it makes you happy! What could be so wrong about enjoying good company, even if your paths lead different ways? Talk to the cutie in your class. Date him if ya want to :D
2) You can live ANYWHERE!
Think of all the beautiful, exotic, dangerous places you can go...YOU CAN GO THERE. You're at a point where you can decide things based on your feelings, and your feelings alone. WOOT WOOT
3) You can have cats and dogs galore.
I know, I guess that doesn't seem that cool to anybody else but me...but I'm stoked about it.
4) You can have your dream job.
Take this time to do all the things that you're passionate about, and if you don't know, find the things you're passionate about. Work up to the position your little heart desires without the worries of when you're gonna get home!
5) You can have a clean apartment...or house..or tent.
You have the option of living in the cutest little girly place you can find if it's what you fancy...how fabulous? I have never enjoyed my living situation more, than when I lived by myself. I walked around in my undies 70% of the time, and I only had to do my own dishes! YUM.
6) Your vast network of friends will undoubtably be over for wine night.
Boyfriends, boyfriend, or no boyfriend, you can always rely on your good friends for a awesome night. I guarantee your best friend snuggles better that any guy you could possibly want to take home.
I know that's only six things...but use your brain, there are plenty of reasons to love being in a relationship with yourself.
Stop trying to tie yourself down. Embrace the beautiful un-attached lifestyle!
Travel, work towards something, friend as hard as you can, and enjoy a glass of wine in the nude of your adorable, clean apartment in the most fabulous place you can imagine.
This blog would be incomplete without some cheezy Independent woman music video at the end...
Food for thought,
Han B.
