A Dangerous Way of Thinking, Is Religion Contributing?

Recently, a friend of mine shared an article via Facebook that I just couldn't keep my mouth shut, about. It's called "That Day I Wore Yoga Pants: 5 Myths about Modesty" and to me, this article is nothing about Yoga pants. 

Without turning this blog-post into some sort of religious debate, I just want to speak about my opinion of this dangerous, "submissive-attitude".


Please read the article before continuing, or else, none of this will make sense to you. 


First off, I am admittedly a form of feminist.

When I say this, I mean that I will always try my hardest to be the best I can, and if that means being better than a boy, so be it. I simply look at it in the way that, if I try my hardest at succeeding in whatever it is I do, than the man I marry will be equally as ambitious or even more so than myself, and who wouldn't want that? I stand for equality, respect, and intelligent competition, and if that makes me a feminist, then I guess I am. 

Also, (on a side-note) I wear Yoga Pants all day, everyday. They are comfortable, and I work at a Yoga Studio, so this article already sucks. 

Now, 

I understand that this article was posted with the intention of spreading some sort of "Christian" (and mind you, this is not specific to just Christianity, but instead seems to appear in most religions in some form) way of thinking, but to me this article could be the reason why, on the opposite end of the spectrum, so many women are being objectified today. 

The author of this article is allowing herself to become even more of a sex object and she doesn't even realize it. There is no power in deciding not to "tempt" men, the real power is not involving men in your decision at all. This kind of an attitude, the one where, we consider our moves based on men at all, is the reason men objectify women in the first place, Instead of saying " I don't want to tempt him" or "I do want to tempt him", just say "I want to wear these pants for ME". 

This kind of attitude could and is harmful to the way men view women. When we allow what men think or say guide out thoughts or actions, we are objectifying ourselves. We are letting ourselves be controlled and we are contributing to a hazardous mentality. 

Many women in abusive relationships have just that, a "submissive-attitude". 

Where does this kind of mentality stop?

Surely, one can see the correlation between "I shouldn't wear that, as I don't want to tempt him" and "I should't have broken that glass, and I deserve (said punishment)"

Eliminate Objectification.

I'v said this in previous posts. The only way anyone gets respect is by demanding it. 

Be a well-rounded woman of intelligence, passion, humor, and motivation and you will attract a man of equal stature. Be a woman who submits as to not "tempt" a man, and you will attract a man too weak to deal with "temptation" on his own. 

I respect modesty, but make sure you're doing it for yourself, not for anyone else. 

Food for thought,

Han B. 

Is he playing "hard-to-get", or are you just playing "hard-to-avoid"?

I'm mean. 

I give out fake numbers, fake names, and I even sometimes fake that I have no interest in the entire sex of the pursuing party. 

WHY?

Sometimes, because I can and sometimes, because I can. 

Makes a lot of sense right?

Here's the thing, this is not specific to just me and it's for sure not specific to just my gender.

Why am I talking about this?

Sometimes, as the pursuing party we forget that we don't always get what we want,  and not only that, but we need to stop calling.

Girls make up excuses for why he's not answering, or calling back. 

"He must have his phone off"

"Maybe he went out of town"

"Maybe he's playing hard-to-get"

"Maybe he died"

NOPE. 

I mean, sure, there could be the case of drunken boy dropping his phone in the toilet...and now, he's phone-less, but, let's get real ladies, he's not answering because he doesn't care and/or he's not interested. 

Boys are pretty simple creatures. 

Boy wants Cheetos, boy eats Cheetos.

Boy wants to play x-box all day, boy plays x-box all day.

Boy wants to shit with the door open, boy shits with the door open. 

Simple. 

Boys do what they WANT to. 

If he's not answering, it's probably because he doesn't WANT to. 

If he didn't invite you over, it's probably because he doesn't WANT you there. 

NOW, don't be all heart broken because some kid decided not to return your interest, think about all the times some weirdo approached you with his heart in a box at a club and you were all "bahahahhahahahaa" in his face and dancing away, spilling your drink on everyone as you did so.

You're mean too. 

Not only are you mean, but you can also be a real bitch when you want to.

Just because you put on your nicest dress and do your hair, doesn't mean he has to look your way. 

It's a hard truth to face, but eventually you'll get the hang of it. 

SO here's what you need to stop doing: 

1) calling him

If he likes you, he will call you

2) Facebook stalking him

Just stop, it's pathetic, and no he's not dating all of the pretty girls in his profile picture

and

3)giving a shit

You're pretty, and there's definitely some weirdo at the club who wants to make you his wife, so stop bitching about how you don't understand why he doesn't like you. Think about how you feel about club-weirdo, yup, that's how he feels about you. 

Here's what you need to start doing:

1) dressing up for yourself

2) dancing for fun

and

3) getting over it

I'm not saying I'm pro at boys, but I am saying, not giving shit, sure beats being pitty-party-patty.

Take a guess as to why weirdo boy plays X-box in his boxers and eats Cheetos all day. It's because so many girls like you turned him down and he learned how to not give a shit. 

Maybe we need to follow their example? Seems like a prime coping method. 

I like Cheetos. 

-Han B